Drains and Radiators
Written by Huga
A good friend of mine used to label all of his team as drains or radiators.
Drains sucked the energy out of the room and left him feeling…well, drained. Radiators brought warmth and energy to the room and left him feeling enthused, even if the subject under discussion was tricky.
I’m sure we can all look at our lives and spot the people who drain us and those who radiate.
The question is, how can we make sure that we are radiating?
I am going to suggest two things. 1. You have to be conscious of doing it. 2. There is no neutral position.
In terms of being conscious, you have to focus out of yourself, gauge the emotional temperature of a room and make the active choice to change it. If you want to see an expert do this then watch a top stand up comedian. They’ll read a room and change the tone for the better.
The only difference between you and a standup is that no-one has paid to see you. So whereas a comedian can come in at full attack and everyone expects it, you may have to be a bit more subtle. This will involve coming in at slightly higher energy than you observe and then raising it bit by bit; think of it as if you are turning up an oven slowly.
So what about this no neutral position? Imagine that your radiating levels can be measured from Level 0 (fast asleep) to Level 10 (children’s party clown). Level 5 is neutral and leaves too much to interpretation. You need to work at level 6 and above to radiate.
This week have a think about how you operate at level 6 and above, change the temperature in the room, and be the radiator.
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